Howdy Howdy all! CAUTION-PROFANITY AHEAD! I like to warn folks before they read..My frustration is showing so "duck and cover"!

I have a question...how much would/have you taken for the sake of love in a relationship? I mean truthfully and honestly, what  could make you stay or make you leave...I mean no negotiation deal breaker in a love relationship?

I ask because 1. me and my roomies and the smoking hot Lady A stayed up late drinking and I am kinda drunk/buzz blogging and

2. I just wanna know where I fall in the spectrum.

My thoughts are that fidelity is pretty big for me, which is ironic because I am not always fidelitous(sp) in relationships...but then I generally pull the old "aint no rings on these fingers" approach or the ever popular "hey, you said you wanted to keep things casual" sort of deal. I think people say they wanna be casual with me because I can come off as a little aloof when it comes to longterm commitments. But enough about me...what about you?

WHAT WOULD MAKE YOU SAY "FUCK THIS! I'M AM OUTTA HERE!"

For me it may not be infidelity...I mean, I don't know, It may depend on the circumstances of the betrayl maybe--of course there is the whole trust issue and everything...I know for a fact that a deal breaker would be someone who Verbally or Physically abuses me...even just once...and I would bone outta that mutha-fucken relationship so fast flames would come from my feet meeting the pavement!

Okay, we all know what the physical abuse entails. Getting the Beat Down simply because you happen to be visible and accessible and in some way seemingly weaker. You got the classic bully situation...power and dominance over the weak, okay that shit is too foul for words!

Now putting up with verbal abuse amazes the hell out of me! Now with a parent beating your mind to a jelly its different cuz you live with them by law and necessity (you're underage and not gainfully employed, limited schooling presents limited employment options)

Now for two ADULTS---How in the hell can someone call "love" on your ass when they constantly tell all the shit about yourself that repulses them in a steady fucken mantra. You some of these fools will beat your ass down verbally and then wanna mount you at will...Fuck that! Ride a dog dick mutha-fucka! (Sorry, I get passionate about these issues).  But after telling someone that their body repulses you, that they will never be worth more than they are right now, that they are all around subpar when compared with ANY female canine on the planet YOU should not ever expect to get within five feet of their FUN PARTS ever again! And someone should meet your ass on a dark street and force you to say that shit to someone who can go toe-to-toe with a douche like yourself!

I think this form of abuse disturbs me so much because even when they aint ragging on your ass, you rag on yourself because of all the shitty programming they have wired into your brain!

I am writing this for someone very important to me and I of course will not mention their name  because I wouldn't want everyone to know who I was if this were me ( they are not mindsay members, but are aware of this post).

My essential question for Mindsayers-- Under what circumstances would you call the whole thang off with a spouse/lover/significant other? What is the one unforgivable deed that would make you snatch up your pride and find the door?  UGH! How about some poetry...here goes...

Silence

There are places which offer but scant consolation 
while others offer one great delight. However, make the Lord the mainstay and refuge of your soul, 
wherever and however you may be.--Ibn Arabi

Goddess Bless